When M came home, he kept telling me to relax and leave the mess for later. I would get so frustrated because I thought the reverse. Clean the mess now and then you can relax all you want! I couldn't stop myself. I finally agreed to "leave it for later" but on the inside the mess was stressing me out. I was trying not to bring up the mess or nag at him for help because I didn't want to start a fight. He had just come home, it was supposed to be a happy time not a stressful one. I finally got to the point where I just sat down and cried. Not one thing set it off but it just built up until I couldn't hold it in. We sat down and figured out a new cleaning routine that would help solve the problem.
It's hard to let go of the way things used to be. He came back and I thought everything would go back to the way it was before he left. So did he. That's not fair though! We weren't the same people; how could you be after all the changes. We need to find our new normal. The new way of doing things that keeps us from being stressed. Life tends to change on you and there isn't much you can do to stop it! Here we are, knee deep in the mess just trying to figure it all out and all I can think of is how much I love him. To me, that's all that matters! As long as that love for him is still there, I know we will figure it out eventually.
So if you've been wondering what the Hansons have been up to lately, here a little snippet of our lives the past few weeks!