Many of you who use Pinterest have probably encountered this a time or two
That's not even the part that bothers me. What sends me over the edge is girls who constantly, and I mean literally multiple times a day, pin images of engagement rings that they want. Not just pretty rings, but $100,000 rings that they most likely will never have but still label as "The ring I'll have one day!" Girl, who are you kidding? Unless you're solely looking for a sugar daddy, chances are your ring will look nothing like that. Dream on!
This makes me wonder why we're so obsessed with an engagement ring. I know I'm guilty of stalking someone's Facebook/Twitter/Instagram when I hear they're engaged to see a photo of the bling. Why? I sure don't know! Then when you do see it, you go into instant judgement mode. A lot of times it makes you forget about the meaning behind it (even if just for a second). I would have taken a piece of string if it still meant that I would get married to my best friend!
The reason this topic comes to mind is because I've dealt with a lot of judgement over my ring. Many people don't know that I actually had a part in choosing my ring. M wanted to make sure I would have something that I would love, even though I tried to reassure him that I would love whatever he picked. Diamonds are pretty, yes, that's for sure. I didn't want diamonds. Gasp! I wanted something that had more meaning! I gave him simple ideas and let him run with it. I said my favorite was a three stone setting (because I had a small solitare ring and I constantly scratched myself) in white gold. If he chose something that was aquamarine or pink, I would be in heaven! Honestly, we spent more on my husband's ring that on my engagement ring and wedding band put together! I don't know exactly what he spent on my engagement ring (nor do I want to) but I know a ballpark!
From many photos and even in person, it looks like a three large diamonds with a small row of diamonds on the side. I always laugh when people ask if it is! My birthday is in March and my birthstone is aquarmarine. The three large stones in my ring are aquamarine and that has more meaning than any diamond ever could! The second I say that my engagement ring isn't full of diamonds, I see the instant judgement come across someone's face. "Oh....didn't you want a diamond ring?" Like that was the only thing I cared about when it slipped on my finger!
An engagement ring is a symbol of you being taken. A symbol of the commitment you're about to make to your significant other. Most importantly, the commitment you're about to make with God! We've become so obsessed with material things and we forget the true meaning behind these all! When I hear stories about girls who throw a fit about the diamond in their ring not being big enough or returning the ring for something they like better, I want to cry for the one who gave it to them! They truly don't deserve going through that as I'm sure they spent a painstakingly long amount of time picking it out in the first place!
Ladies, you can dream all you want but please don't put such a ridiculous amount of pressure on your man in an already stressful situation! Do you really want to be carrying around something on your hand that could put you at risk of being robbed, anyway?